There’s More to Say After R U OK?


On Thursday 10 September we celebrated R U OK Day in the office by hosting a morning tea. As a company we make it our daily priority to check in on one another. However, today was a special reminder to raise awareness and take simple steps that could help change a life.

The team reminded each other to take time to check in with someone who may be struggling in life and ask R U OK? We discussed different ways to approach someone who may be feeling isolated, lonely, anxious or suffering with insomnia as a result of mental illness.

There is now denying that it has been a tough year for many of us, with the recent challenging circumstances of isolation and a pandemic running rampant. It’s a time we need connection all the more and knowing what to say to help someone feel supported is paramount.

The purpose of R U OK Day is to inspire and empower and show a willingness to support those who may be struggling around us. It’s a reminder to start a meaningful conversation and ask the question R U OK?

However, asking isn’t always easy and it’s knowing how to start the discussion and how to follow up that meaningful conversation with valuable advice that will make a difference to someone’s life.

R U OK? describe the following as possible signals………

  • They may sound moody, lonely, unable to switch off or confused about the future
  • They may be experiencing becoming withdrawn, unable to concentrate poor sleeping routine
  • They may have suffered a recent traumatic event, major health issues or financial difficulties

And here are a few recommendations of what you could say after asking R U OK?

  • I’ve noticed a few changes in the things you have been doing recently, is everything ok?
  • You don’t seem yourself lately, I am here for you. Is there anything you would like to talk about?
  • Just checking in with you to see how you are doing?
  • I know there has been a lot going on for you lately, how are you coping with that?

Listen – be there for the individual, give your full attention and try understand what they are experiencing

  • I’m always here to listen when you need to talk
  • How long have you been feeling this way?
  • I understand what you have been going through has not been easy but I am here for you if you need me
  • Take your time, I am ready to listen

Encourage Action – Suggest ways to find help and let them know you are always there if they need you

  • Have you got much support around you, friends or family that you confide in?
  • Is there anything I can do now to support you through this tough time?
  • For some people talking to a professional can be helpful, I can book you an appointment if you would like me to do that for you?
  • What is something that you enjoy doing that will make you feel good about yourself and take your mind off things? I can come with you if you want some company?

Check in – Let them know you will keep in touch

  • I just wanted to check in and see how you are feeling?
  • Has anything improved since we last spoke?

At Advanced Group the health and well-being of our employees has always been our first priority, which is why we have such a strong process in place and are supportive of their needs.

If you want to talk to us about anything you can contact us on 02 8086 3444. You can also reach out to the following support lines:

Mates in Construction: 1300 642 111
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636

Learn how to start a conversation and remember a this could change a life 👥